Understand the fundamentals of a coaching lifestyle
I became an accredited coach in 2002, although I have always leaned towards a coaching leadership style without calling it that. Over the last 15 years I have become more and more aware that coaching is so much more than a work-based activity – indeed it could play a significant role in lifestyle design.
It is certainly not a magic bullet and my life has not been ‘perfect’ since I became a coach, but coaching is a versatile set of skills that can help you get the most out of your life.
Above all, I have seven key questions for you as displayed opposite:
- What is your vision for your life?
Turn your dreams into a clear vision. Who do you want to be and what do you want to do? Start by looking at the various areas of your life (we use the “Wheel of Life” exercise) – where do you want to focus?
- What are your personal goals?
Clarify your ‘being’ and ‘doing’ goals and write them down and display them in a prominent place. Goals are dreams with time-scales. Choose how to allocate your time and energy and then as the Nike advert says ‘Just do it!’
- What are your strengths?
Start from what you are good at. If you are not sure, ask people you trust to highlight your strengths. Identify your strengths and then polish them. Develop a growth mindset and invest in your own potential.
- Can you develop a relentless focus on the positive?
You can choose to focus on the positive in every situation. At the very least, increase the percentage of your positive self-talk and adopt an optimistic approach to daily opportunities and challenges.
- How can you find opportunities to realise your goals?
The world is full of limitless possibilities, the challenge is to recognise them! Keep your reticular activating system open for business and look for creative ways of realising your goals. The opportunities are there.
- Who is in your mastermind group?
Think of participating in a mastermind group. Your mastermind group is very influential – you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. The people close to you have the biggest impact on your thinking and vice-versa.
- Are you investing in reflection as a growth activity?
Reflection is an investment – a way of learning from experience. It would be wasteful to ignore this rich source of lifestyle development. Set aside time to reflect, keep a journal and increase your personal awareness.